Nurturing of the Soul Excerpt - Chapter 17: Boundaries That Protect Your Peace and Honor God

I began writing Nurturing the Soul: A 30-Day Journey Toward Spiritual Growth in November 2023, with the hope of completing it within a year. But as life so often reminds us, the journey unfolds in its own time. Now, two years later, in November 2025, I’m still polishing a few final chapters, with faith and excitement that the finished book will be ready to share by mid-December 2025.

This book was born from real moments of struggle and surrender. I hope that it will touch hearts, inspire simplicity, and encourage readers to live authentically, free from the weight of pretense or the fear of being misunderstood. It’s about learning to protect your peace and cherishing those who truly belong in your circle of love and trust.

Speaking of protection, Chapter 17 explores one of life’s most essential lessons: setting boundaries. Not walls to keep people out, but gentle barriers that honor who you are and safeguard your peace.

Here is an excerpt from “Boundaries that Protect Your Peace and Honor God.” May it speak to your heart and remind you that protecting your peace is not selfish; it’s sacred.

Day 17: Boundaries That Protect Your Peace and Honor God

Introduction:

Boundaries aren’t walls; they’re safeguards for the soul. When we set boundaries, we are not shutting people out; we are preserving the peace and purpose God has placed within us.

Boundaries are a reflection of self-respect and divine order, reminding us that not every demand, invitation, or expectation deserves our “yes.” Saying “no” when led by the Spirit is not selfish; it’s sacred. It allows us to walk in alignment with God’s will rather than being pulled by the pressures of others.

Scripture Reading:

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. — Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

Let your yes be YES. Let your no be NO. Anything more than this comes from the devil. — Matthew 5:37 (NLV)

Reflection:

•Boundaries honor God’s temple (you).

• Healthy limits prevent burnout.

• Saying “no” can be holy.

Our hearts are sacred spaces where God’s Spirit dwells. When we allow constant intrusion, whether through overcommitment, unhealthy relationships, or misplaced guilt, we risk draining the spiritual energy meant for God’s purpose in our lives. Boundaries are not barriers against love; they are guidelines for living wisely and maintaining balance. Jesus Himself often withdrew from the crowds to pray, setting boundaries even in ministry. If He needed that time alone with the Father, so do we.

I’ve often been called an empath, a title others have lovingly given me. And to be honest, I see truth in it. I do feel deeply for others, and when I notice a need, my natural instinct is to step in and help.

I’m also what some would describe as “a little obsessive-compulsive.” I like order and structure. When I’m given a project, I approach it methodically, seeing the entire picture, recognizing what tasks need to be done, and ensuring every part functions smoothly. While that kind of vision can be helpful, it also has its pitfalls. When I notice an empty role, my first instinct is to fill it, regardless of whether I have the time, energy, or inclination to do so.

It took me reaching a place of complete exhaustion to realize that I am just one person. I cannot, and should not, try to do everything.

I recall a time when I was part of a large church with numerous ministries and events. Whenever I saw a need, I stepped in to address it. Before long, I was overextended, overwhelmed, and spiritually drained.

When I began stepping back, not everyone understood. Some even criticized me, suggesting that I was neglecting my service to God. Their words stung, but deep down, I knew the truth: I wasn’t failing God by saying no. I was honoring Him by acknowledging my limitations.

Through the guidance of the Holy Spirit, I’ve learned a vital lesson: I can’t pour from an empty cup. Now, I serve when I truly can, when my heart is free, and I know I can still keep my time with God sacred. When I say yes, I mean it wholeheartedly. And when I say no, I say it without guilt or apology.

Saying no doesn’t mean you don’t care. It simply means you are not available at that time. It means you are protecting your peace and your relationship with God. There are always others who can step in. Let them.

Being true to your word, whether in a yes or a no, is a sign of spiritual maturity. As Jesus said in Matthew 5:37, “Let your yes be yes and your no be no.”

When you live by that truth, your service becomes sincere, your boundaries become sacred, and your peace remains intact.

Application: What boundary do you need to set this week? Is there an area in your life where you’ve allowed too much access, too many obligations, too much noise, or too little rest? Take a moment to ask the Holy Spirit where your heart needs protection. Then, take one small but intentional step toward creating that space for peace.

Prayer: Heavenly Father, thank You for showing me the beauty and purpose of healthy boundaries. Please help me to set limits that protect my peace and honor You. Give me the courage to say “no” when needed and the wisdom to say “yes” when it brings glory to Your name. May every boundary I set draw me closer to You and keep me devoted to Your will. In Jesus’ precious name. Amen.